Fashionable Friday | Slips

Womens-SlipsLadies,there is something that your mother may have insisted on as a child, but has since been thrown to the cavernous abyss of your childhood – that’s right, slips.  But the frilly, cheap material of past is long gone and there’s a new slip on the block.  Here is the beauty of a good slip:

In the winter, a slip keeps your cute wool Rag & Bone dress from catching on your tights.

In the summer, a slip keeps your J Crew jersey dress from showing off your assets while highlighting your assets.

All the time a slip flatters your body but hides what we don’t don’t want to show.

Not every slip is equal. Personally I love the Commando brand. Just like a good bra, it’s improtant to find one that fits, conceals and is the right color for  your attire.

 

Tip(sy) Thursday

Facebook-RemoveFacebook banter with friends is so much fun!  Until it gets a wee bit out of hand. Maybe it’s because you shared something that you don’t want your boss to see, or your friends posted a picture that opposed your “no red booze cups” rule. Whatever the reason, it’s time to nip those posts in the butt with a simple “edit” or “remove.”  Just make sure that if your friends ask later you feel confident in your reasons.

Happy posting.

How do you ask your coworkers to stop offering you food?

Food with ColleaguesDear Gwyn,

How do you tell your coworker to stop offering you food? This happens to me every day and my colleague looks offended when I decline. Today she offered me carrot cak. I ate it because I felt bad, but now I feel worse for eating it.

Yowsers!  It is so unfortunate that you have to face this day after day. Although, if I am being completely honest, perhaps you aren’t being clear about your needs and setting firm boundaries.  So, let’s nip this “pushers” habit in the butt and get you back on track temptation free.

Although it is not entirely important to understand your colleague’s exact motivation, it is important to understand that her motivations have nothing to do with you. She may be offering you food because she loves to cook, she may feel insecure about her inability to say “no” to treats and “misery loves company ” or perhaps she social eating equivocates friendship and security. No matter her reasons for wanting to share food, you must set boundaries and feel guilt free.  Here is how:

  1. Let her know that you appreciate her offer.  There is no reason to burn bridges with your colleague.
  2. Take the blame.  Yes, state this as your restriction.  It is your choice for health or other reasons that you don’t want to eat her homemade flan, or best-ever-but-probably-is-chef-boyardee-concoction.
  3. State how is makes you feel.  Feelings are personal, so you can state why you feel you can’t particiapte.
  4. Set boudnaries. Let your colleague know what you will have to do if you can’t find a solution. Afterall this is for your best interest.

Ok, so here is an example of how this works. String it all together and state:

  1. I really appreciate your offer. 
  2. I’m trying to be mindful of what I eat.
  3. When you offer me food everyday it makes me feel bad.
  4. If you continue to offer me food, I won’t be able to come into the teacher’s lounge at work.

More than anything, be honest about your reasons and stick to them!

Tip(sy) Tuesday

Pets and GuestDo you have pets? Are they your best friends? As much as we may love our pets, our friends and guests may not enjoy their company as much as we do.  When you have friends over do your best to keep your pets out of your friends space unless your friends invite them.  If your friends indicate that your pets company is too much, be prepared to put your pets in another part of the home.

And yes, I am a horrible offender of this.

Cheers!

How do I stop people next to me from reading my book?

British-Tea-PotDear Gwyn,

I travel quite a bit for work and most of the time use public transportation. I’m fortunate that my city has busses and a light rail  I also fly about once a month.  It seems like whenver I’m traveling or commuting, I have a someone next to me reading my book or looking at my work. How do I keep my reading and work private?

It is fabulous that you take advantage of the public transportation system in your city. Taking the bus to and from work is one of my favorite ways to commute.  When we are commuting on public transportation by necessity or choice, there is no reason that public transportation means your work must be public too.

If you find yourself next to a nosy neighbor, be proactive to solve the situation:

  1. Selectively Choose Your Reading Material or Work: Although it is nice to think that other commuters will respect privacy of others as much as possible, you must assume that whatever you read or choose to work on in a public space is public. Working on highly private work documents or reading a romance novel may not be the best choice for your commute.
  2. Body Language for Privacy: Depending on your route and commute time, you may have a new travel companion every 5 minutes, or the same person seated next to you for 5 hours. Either way, if your neighbor takes interest in your reading material, start with body language by politely turning the information away from your neighbor.
  3. Ask for Privacy: If you body language doesn’t send a message, or your nosy neighbor continues to peak at your work (or comment on it!), ask for a bit of privacy.  Acknowledge that you are in a public shared space, and that you would like ot keep you work to yourself.  ”I’d really appreciate the opportunity to complete my work or book in private. Do you mind giving me some privacy.

Keep your commute pleasant and productive!