How do you ask a noisy neighbor to keep quiet and respect your sleep?

I live below some very loud neighbors in an older apartment building.  Every morning the woman upstairs marches around in her heels above my bedroom from 6-7am waking me up and torturing me for an hour before she leaves for work.  I really just want to ask her to wait until she leaves for work before putting her shoes on.  How do I politely let her know that I can hear her through the floor every morning so she’ll stop and I can get my last hour of sleep I so desperately need?

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There are few things in this world as truly cherished and reveled in as a good night’s sleep in our own beds. Who doesn’t love to sink into a deep slumber and wake up refreshed and comfortable with a full night of beauty rest? But ruin our sleep and and you wont’ face beauty, you’ll meet the beast.

We have enough problems in the world to deal with without starting the day off on the wrong side of the bed. Literally. So when there is an interruption with our sleep, and even worse, a reoccurring interruption, who can blame us to get a bit irritated?

The good news is dealing with your heel-wheeling-neighbor-above is a short solution away.

  • Remember, chances are your neighbor is entirely unaware that her morning routine is disturbing your precious zzz’s.
  • If possible speak with your neighbor in person and only leave a note (and maybe a bottle of wine) if you aren’t able to meet face to face.
  • Keep the conversation light-hearted but direct.  The key is to be clear about your message while remaining friendly; people are always more receptive when they aren’t being defensive.
  • Let you neighbor know that older buildings have their charm and one of those charms is knowing your neighbor’s routine and every move…even at 6:00 am while you are still asleep.
  • Politely request that your neighbor remain shoe-less until leaving for work.  If she seems surprised, stay firm in your request but jokingly offer to provide a pair of house slippers.

As long as you clearly state that the challenge of sleeping is your issue and the solution is simple for her, you shouldn’t be met with resistance.  But realize that no one is perfect and even with the best of intentions, you will have unplanned wake-ups.

May your nights be full of pony dreams and your use of earplugs few.

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